(Author’s note:Unless otherwise noted, all biblical passages are from the Holy Bible, New King James Version)
“Toxic masculinity” is a phrase that is , to put it mildly, disingenuous. I have come to the conclusion that the term is a slogan, a short phrase that is easily remembered or a mantra.
What is a mantra? A slogan that is uttered ad nauseam to the point where it is accepted as truth. In this case we are told to believe that America is in crisis because the inherent traits of maleness lead to misogyny, racism, violence, homophobia.
The so-called experts have diagnosed masculinity as a potential time-bomb that must be tempered and even changed for society to become the utopia they envision. Like every other “crisis” that the Godless left preaches to us as a revelation, toxic masculinity is merely a term to disarm America and Western Civilization and make it malleable to the wishes of those who think they are saving the world.
What the left is really attacking with the term “toxic masculinity” are those who hold a biblical worldview. The godless really have no problem with violence if it is in the cause of ushering in revolution. What they hate are the spiritual truths in the Bible that condemn the sins they practice, promote and worship.
Before you succumb to the left’s view of masculinity, which simply means you surrender the traits that God has created you with (and embrace emotionalism, indecisiveness, passivity , pride, hate and condemnation), let us look at how God defines masculinity.
In Genesis 1:27 we given our first description of God’s creation of man:
So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.
God defines in Ephesians 5:25-27 a man’s role of husband to his wife:
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.
We are told to love our wives as Christ loved the church, which means we will love,protect, sanctify, teach and give our lives if necessary. It is our job as masculine Christian men to be responsible not only for the physical needs of our wives but also their spiritual growth.
What does Scripture say about men’s responsibilities as fathers?
Fathers are to raise their children with love and discipline. We are to raise our kids up with the word of God. Showing forgiveness and mercy. This means disciplining without unreasonable severity and not demonstrating abusive impatience.
Fathers also have a duty to take care of their families :
But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.–1Timothy 5:8
Classic masculinity is represented by guys who are loving, tough, stoic,protective,loyal, hard-working, no-nonsense and humble. Masculine men do not waste time whining about trivial things and endure hardship as necessary when called for.
These are men who give a firm handshake, look you straight in the eye and are measured in what they say. They don’t fly off the handle and lose control of their emotions and lose respect for those men who wear their emotions on their sleeves. These traits do not come naturally to boys, they learn these from fathers and role models who demonstrate these traits.
While I reject with prejudice the term toxic masculinity, I do not deny that we have a spiritual crisis in thousands of young men in America. These are boys who become prone to violence and substance abuse because most of them do not have a father living in their home. As harsh as this sounds , young men need a father to once in a while slap them upside the head to get their attention.
The reality is boys reach a certain age when they no longer fear their mothers even in a two parent home. This is exacerbated in a single parent home. This is certainly not to denigrate single mothers who, by and large, do a tremendous job undertaking the roles of both parents. But truth is truth
If there is a toxic masculinity problem, it’s violent young men who are full of pride, resentment, anger and entitlement. These are hopeless boys, teens and adults who were not raised to take responsibility because of a culture that denigrates fatherhood, marriage and God.
It’s funny. Leftist policies have lead to these problems, yet they shift blame to all maleness with the blanket slander “toxic masculinity.”
On second thought, maybe the left is on to something. Every now and then, their slogans and mantras back into the truth.
Let me explain.
Toxic means poisonous. So toxic masculinity could be accurately defined as poisonous masculinity. Agreed?
Hopefully , I have demonstrated that Godly masculinity is affirming, protective, and good for the country. Fathers are the leaders of their homes and are responsible for loving their wives, loving and disciplining their children and providing for their families.
The Godless on the other hand tell women they don’t need marriage or men. They believe government is better equipped to provide for children and that young boys should be medicated rather than redirecting their energy. However, you have only to watch the evening news to see that the evidence is abundantly clear that leftist/Godless culture has poisoned everything it touches, including masculinity.
May Godly men be even bolder in their demonstration of masculinity that honors our Heavenly Father and glorifies Jesus. May we also demonstrate this in prayer and reaching out to those young men who are in lost in darkness.